Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Flying Solo

Who am I? Let's see I am a 40 yr old african american female and YES 40 is the new 30. I say thisbecause I am more alive, aware and freer than I have ever been before. Life truly does not begin until you have some time and experience under your belt. I am currently in the middle of a divorce, learning how to make my own way in this world and determined not to let this divorce define my life. While the past year has been a rollercoaster of emotions and I have gone from being full of anger and venom to indescribably sad to just ready for the madness to end, I am a better person for it. At times I have questioned whether it would have been easier to just deal with a non-working, dream world living womanizer than to go thru the headache and hassles of divorce, the emotions you experience and the pain it causes the children, but reality is always around the corner to confirm I am exactly where I should be at this time in my life.

In the midst of this rollercoaster of emotions, I have been single-handedly raising two very active, high-maintenance little girls, ages 4 and 8. Besides the fact that girls are a handful by nature, these two beauties also have food allergies. Between them they share the following food allergies: eggs, peanuts, chicken, dairy, wheat and shellfish. I know you must be wondering, "what CAN these chicks eat?" Because that was my first question too when the allergist gave me the news. I also wanted to know how in the world could a black kid be allergic to chicken???? I mean, really....chicken?? As you can see our dining resources are pretty limited but I have become somewhat creative albeit frugal when it comes to feeding my children high quality food. And in addition to all this, I work very hard to provide my girls with a quality education and right now this means I send them to a private christian school. I don't knock anyone who doesn't send their children to private school, these are just choices I have made for my kids at this time in their life.

I will rise above and conquer the fears that have held me back for years from becoming the woman God designed me to be. I am empowered to step out on faith and take risks in order to soar and provide my children with the life they deserve.


  1. Love it, love it!! go on Girl.

  2. You are an inspiration to many people going through a divorce and raising children as a single parent. I know that God will richly bless you while you are on this journey as you keep your eyes focused on Him.

  3. Keep them coming. You never know where this will lead.

  4. Shawn you are a inspiration to all women. I look at you and see how beautiful you are inside and out. I know you are strong and will continue to rise above this. God is and will continue to bless you. You are a women of God and God will continue to see you through. I love you girl. You have and always will be a really special friend! I will keep you all in prayer.